
From a published book
A Ghost Story Interlude
Matt Gardner, M.Ed, RCC · Multitudes: Pull Your Selves Together, pp. 139–141
“And so I think of - and sometimes share the story of - this gentle woman [Mama Jo] who kindly helped my ghost to move on.”
The first time I viewed the house where I now live, I was met by my realtor, Steve, at the sliding door. He was sweating and flustered and immediately told me, ‘This is not the house for you.’ O-kay, I replied. But can I have a look and decide for myself? ‘I guess so,’ sez Steve, still being weird. ‘But we should probably not waste our time.’ I insisted. And after almost buying a few other properties, my wife and I kept coming back to the one Steve had hated, and eventually - following our guts - bought it.
It was only years later that Steve - a friend, and one of the straightest, most conservative people I’ve ever met - told me what had happened that first day. He’d been upstairs looking around, and saw a ghost. When I met him at the sliding door, he was sprinting his way out of the house, totally freaked. This was a most un-Steve-like revelation. In the meantime, about ten different friends and family members had told us, independently of one another, and quite confidently, ‘There’s a ghost in your house.’ Those who gave a location for said spectre all agreed that it resided in a small bedroom (the very room I’m sitting in right now, in fact, which I turned into my office), and specifically in the closet. My father- and mother-in-law, while sleeping in the room, had each had nightmares about a young boy coming out of the closet and attacking them. Without knowing any of this, my children also both thought there was a ghost in this room, which they had to pass on their way to the bathroom at night. They insisted that we keep the hallway light on, and if the door wasn’t closed all the way, my son would wake us up to close it. Steve’s belated admission set the cherry on the cake.
By chance, I was talking to a woman [Mama Jo] who told me that she saw spirits and often helped them to transition. I shared my story, hoping that it would put her at ease and gain some trust, and she offered to come and help me with my problem. For my kids’ sake - okay, and out of curiosity - I agreed.
There was no weirdness or shenanigans when the spirit-whisperer [Mama Jo] visited. She walked calmly around the house, eventually stopping at this room. I had given her no clues at all, but like everyone else she confidently declared that the ghost was here, and specifically focussed on the closet, which held a lot of pain and terror for him. He was a boy of about twelve. She even gave me a tentative name. And then she went to work. While I waited outside (listening), she talked gently and compassionately with this young lad. She told him that she knew what he’d been through, that she understood his hurt and anger. She told him that none of that was his fault. She informed him that some good people were now living in this house, a happy family with young children, and that his presence was scaring us. And she explained to him that his pain was keeping him stuck here, stuck in his suffering, when he could let go and move on to something better.
Eventually she emerged and told me that she thought he had left. And sure enough, my kids stopped mentioning the ghost, and stopped being afraid of this room.
Matt Gardner · Registered Clinical Counsellor


